Earlier today I went on a bit of a sharing spree on Twitter. Instead of retyping it all here I’m just going to link the tweets.
I’ll probably be talking a bit more about my depression and the improvements I’m noticing over the next couple of weeks, as well as about other, exciting, things.
A friend on G+ shared this fantastic article about What to do When You’re Depressed, and it’s so spot on: https://t.co/htuDnElK0B
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
One of the things both articles mention is the importance of talking about depression to help normalize it.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
My depression is more like a lack of anything. All the flavor and color and excitement just kinda drains out of the world.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
This voice is ALWAYS there. Always. Even when I’m not depressed.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
But once the depression starts, it gets more and more difficult to talk back to the voice.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
But then something happened. I’m still not quite sure what it was. Maybe it was the stress of school.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
At the time, my car wasn’t working and I couldn’t afford to get it fixed. And I had been so excited about bike commuting.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
But a month or so into the semester, I found myself crying in a panic as I was getting ready to go to class.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
But then, even powering through wasn’t working. I was at my wit’s end.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
I did. I made an appt to see the nurse practitioner, and I cried in the office and explained what was going on.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
She also mentioned therapy. But I couldn’t afford to get my car fixed. There was no way I could afford therapy.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
I got my car fixed eventually, and gave up on my bike altogether.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
I was still terrified of getting on my bike. But I forgave myself for it, and went hiking instead. A lot.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
I figured I was fixed enough to handle the important stuff — school, my blog, my relationships — so I let the bike go.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
A couple of months ago, when I was feeling myself slipping into another minor depression, I started looking for ways to work my way out.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
Something I can focus on that gives me something positive to do, to remind myself I’m not what the voice says I am.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
One of the goals was to do the bike ride around Lake Tahoe in June. I’ve done it before and really enjoyed it.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
Eric, being wonderful, set up bike rides for us to do that wouldn’t take us on any busy streets, to minimize the stress of traffic.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
I knew it wouldn’t be fun. My body is not in bike shape. My butt isn’t saddle-hardened.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
I wouldn’t say I was excited about it. But I was happy I’d done “the hard thing.” And it was a hard thing.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
We’d wake up on the weekend and Eric would ask if I wanted to go for a ride, and I’d say “yes.” And then take 2 hours to actually go.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
By early Dec, I was really struggling. One on 15 mile ride, around mile 7, I turned to Eric and said, “I kinda like this.”
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
The “like” only lasted about a mile. Then it was all “I’m almost home” over and over.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
I wasn’t doing anything. I wasn’t even meeting the bare minimum of relationship stuff, or household stuff.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
I was a mess. And it wasn’t just about the bike. It was about my blog. About my cooking. About me.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
Something wasn’t right, I just knew it.I mean, talk therapy might help, but I needed immediate results.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
The NP doubled my dosage of citalopram. I was cautiously hopeful, but willing to give it a try.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
The first was a couple of nights ago, when I had a vision of cooking some blueberry-lemon cupcakes and remembered the last time I did that.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
I’d been genuinely excited about getting in my kitchen and playing around. I hadn’t felt that in over 6 months.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
That was like a punch to the gut. I had been far more depressed than I’d realized.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
The 2nd revelation happened yesterday. I needed to deposit a check. And without prompting, I though, “I should ride my bike to the bank!”
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
The 2nd revelation happened yesterday. I needed to deposit a check. And without prompting, I though, “I should ride my bike to the bank!”
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
My intention is in sharing this so publicly isn’t to ask for pity or accolades. It’s to talk about it so others don’t feel so alone.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016
If you’re depressed, don’t give up. Make contact with someone else. Feel free to chat with me here. Ask questions. You are not crazy.
— itchbay (@itchbay) January 6, 2016